Maya and Betsey - Your conversation over at Maya's place has shaken me out of my paralysis - just so much that has happened this week with NG, mostly him taking my concerns about our future viability together seriously. He is opening up, but I now find that because of the lying, my confidence in what he is saying is not quite there.
NG too is an ardent conflict avoider too, and much of his fear in discussing R issues with me comes down to being afraid of being challenged, something OW I gather never did, and I guess, therefore, some of her attraction.
Quote: My boss has a saying that really applies here: It's not WHO you are--it's HOW you are WHO you are.
This really hit home. I know I've let go of the crazymaking thing, well, mostly I've let go. But there are other areas that clearly need work, NG is still not comfortable sharing his feelings
Slowly 
