Hi yaz, deb, randy, karen, pam, bnb, maya, betsey and nitaf - your feedback and support as always means so much to me.
Well, NG initiated an R conversation this afternoon, wanting to know if I had definitely made up my mind about moving on. My response was that I was looking for constructive discussions with him so we both understand what got us to this point. That I was changing my personal emphasis from 'what will it take to save this relationship' to 'what is good for slowly'. He looked stunned, and somewhat fearful.
I asked that if we do conclude that we need to separate, I would rather we did it on amicable terms, and his immediate response was that he did not even want to think about separating. I am begining to see his fear more clearly, but really feel I need to shock him out of his emotional paralysis.
He has now committed to initiating R talks, and being more open and transparent. He shared some of why he feels compelled to continue conversations with OW, but that late last week he had started talking to OW about winding things up. Seems like he is still stuck on getting her 'permission' to end things
So my friends, we have some more distance to cover before we know if this journey is over. I'm not afraid of the hard work, but I get the impression NG is floundering.
Slowly 
