Quote: Perhaps it makes him feel loved knowing that his actions hurt you. ie if you didn't love him, you wouldn't care what he did.
In thinking about the things H says to me some days, maybe he's like this to? Like when he'll throw in a remark about OW and I react and say "why would you say something like that to me" and he replies "just to irritate you or get a reaction" so he's pushing my buttons to see how I react. If I react by getting all upset, he knows I care. My, oh my, I am slowly beginning to see things about my H that I missed in the past.
I still don't like that he mentions stuff like this, but maybe it's his way of seeing if I care. He used to accuse me of not "knowing" him and it was usually after I would get upset about something H said or an action of H's.
Like when he'll throw in a remark about OW and I react and say "why would you say something like that to me" and he replies "just to irritate you or get a reaction" so he's pushing my buttons to see how I react. If I react by getting all upset, he knows I care. My, oh my, I am slowly beginning to see things about my H that I missed in the past. 
