Hi Everyone - Thank you for the support and warm wishes, as well as the usual wonderful advise.
After my post on Friday, I escaped reality in the time honoured manner of burying myself in work. 2 emails from NG, one with an apology, for what I'm not sure, it did not specify, and another about the fact that I knew he and OW were still communicating, so what's the problem. And so we proceeded to move over the weekend with this tension hanging over us.
We were exceedingly busy on Saturday, which was a relief.
On Sunday, I suppose after a couple of days of brooding, the pain just got too much. I felt there really was no point in continuing in a relationship where lies are seen as justified, where the spoken intent is inconsistent with subsequent behaviour.
So we had a chat. I was basically indicating my intention to move on. NG thought I was making a mistake, that the A was over, that he just 'communicates' with her. Lots of alien speak, basically. Then he askes what he can do to change my mind.
Well, I was not going down that thorny path. I fell for that once before, only to have my suggestions thrown back at me as 'unreasonable demands'. So I just confirmed that there were definitely things he could do that would make me think differently, and left it at that.
Quite chilly in bed last night, and here I am at the crack of dawn planning another escape for the day. Both of us are hanging around the house, working on our laptops while we entertain the remainder of various construction workers who have yet to finish the work here.
I know I have not been dbing for very long, but there seems to be little evidence that he is capable of breaking free from OW's influence. So like many people here, I'm in the mode of it this worth the effort?
