I'm still pondering on that legal measure to give OW a heads-up that she is contributing to a potentially dangerous situation. But maybe ignoring the problem will make it go away faster? seems to be the gist of my cainercast for the week.
Do unto others as you would have others do to you. That's the advice they give and it sounds jolly sensible. It is, though, not so easy to follow when others are doing what you don't want them to do. You are less than ecstatic about a certain situation. Your ability to be kind, wise, tolerant and forgiving is being stretched to the limit. If your responses and reactions of late have been somewhat less than saintly, we can understand. You may not manage to stay high and clear at all points this week. But you can at least try. Turn the other cheek. It will be less stressful, and you'll be more successful.
Have been worrying about you and how you are doing. Sorry to hear about the newest developments. I have been in mlc and have a much better undwerstanding of what is going on. The mood swings are normal for this process and i wanted to thank you so much for helping to get me to this point.
I now know that not matter what i will be ok . I will check in later to see how you are doing take care Believe
I can relate to the OW thing as my H's OW was considering buying a house two doors down from ours behind H's back! So that H could be closer to S, I mean WTF! My H obviously isn't telling OW a lot about his sitch at home as OW thinks the reason H is home is because of our S. The whole thing, the wackiness of it, kind of scared me. Maybe I was overreacting a little, but it occurred to me that OW might be capable of anything and I actually feared for the safety of our S.
I think you're doing great and eventually the OW will fade away.
Hi Slowly, just stopping by to check on you...it sounds like things are still going well, glad your housewarming was fun! I know how it is to have to put up with the damnable phone calls and emails.........grrrrrrr.........I grabbed onto Cathys post that they will fade away...........
Maybe keep a list of anything OW's H does, just for future reference, if needed? Most everything my H's ex-roommate has said/done that was waaaay off base is here on the BB. (She once said she was going to get a cat that looked exactly like his and give it the same name.)
Hi Everyone - Busy at work, busy with the renovations - I miss coming here
We seem to be doing OK, NG and I had a chat about how open he can be, and the more open, the better for me. Sooo, the new deal is I ask about his contact with OW, and he tells me. Tonight he was moody big time, tomorrow is the one year anniversary of the start of the affair, I'm acting as if it is a normal day, obviously he is having a harder time.