I can relate to the OW thing as my H's OW was considering buying a house two doors down from ours behind H's back! So that H could be closer to S, I mean WTF! My H obviously isn't telling OW a lot about his sitch at home as OW thinks the reason H is home is because of our S. The whole thing, the wackiness of it, kind of scared me. Maybe I was overreacting a little, but it occurred to me that OW might be capable of anything and I actually feared for the safety of our S.
I think you're doing great and eventually the OW will fade away.
