Hi everyone - The small hours are nice and quiet for meditation. Wednesday and Thursday have been pretty positive, NG has been very attentive, lots of ILYs, and intense intimacy

However, on Weds, I logged in to our kind-of joint netscape email account, and saw 4 emails from OW, one of them saying that she and her husband drove past our home. Some of you may recall that back at the end of Jan when her husband found hotel receipts of the times NG and OW were having it off in the afternoons, he and his buddies hot-footed (actually in their Lexus SUVs) it around to our place only to find we were abroad. So they vandalised our front door instead.

You can imagine my reaction to seeing her note about driving past our home - all the terror of being violated came rushing back. I slept on the issue, and thought through what she is doing now - which is pretending to her husband that everything is OK and that the affair is over, but secretly continuing contact with NG.

I had a chat with NG, and outlined as calmly as possible my fears that OW was setting her husband up for another episode of rage. He will eventually find out that she has been deceiving him, and that the stability he thought he had was just her faking it. He has already called me directly twice, been rather aggressive (yeah, like I can do anything about it ). NG agreed that I had grounds to be concerned. We left it that I am considering putting my lawyer on the case to establish her contributory role in inciting his violence, should anything happen later.

And guys, I am seriously thinking of taking the step of instructing my solicitor to serve her a legal document so we have it on record that she knowingly mismanaged a situation that from past record we know will lead to ugliness.

I'm really not prepared to risk my safety. And somehow, it may just be the wakeup call everyone needs, because till now, I have been amazingly accommodating.

That's my update. Otherwise, NG and I are doing well. Slowly

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