Slowly, though it is not great to be crazymaking in DB terms, I think it's okay to forgive yourself a little crazy now and then.....it is your H who is staying in contact with OW though he knows it is hurtful and crazymaking and a re-traumatization on some level. I'm not saying go crazy on purpose, just be gentle with yourself.
Oy.
Was it Azure who said recently that DB'ing, while amazing, does put us in the one-down position? I think getting mystery and life is a way to counter that tendency.
