Quote: However, he genuinely does not seem to see why his continued contact with OW is painful for me. Or perhaps more to he point, why he should maybe cease contact with OW, as he promised back in mid-March.
Slowly, what I'm getting out of this, is that the situation is still all about him. He is still getting some head patting from her.
Quote: My reasoning is that he feels extremely confident that there is now no possibility of me risking the relationship, and he will just continue to push the limits on what he can "get away with".
Are you married to my H?
I think you are in a much better place with NG than I am with H. Can you openly address this with NG?
In a previous post, you made a comment about talking with NG about how he sees himself. Sounds like that would be a good place to start.
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
