Meditative Travels

[sage]

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Hi Sage - Your point has hit home, I'm really going to have to focus on processing this.
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how does NG make the commitment to himself to view himself as "faithful" or "monogamous" or "committed" and choose not to belie that. The added complexity here, though, is that of wanting to view oneself as "caring" or "not hurtful" and because of the OP there is no way to avoid hurting someone, no? So, I sometimes think that's the rub...in order to view themselves as non-hurtful, well, how do you achieve that when someone is gonna be hurt no matter what?



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I'll need to spend some time figuring out, hopefully with his participation, how he sees himself. It may be the key to this whole puzzle.

Need to figure out best approach, Slowly

This may sound absurd but since you can't control how he views himself, what if you adopted the mindset of viewing him as capable of fidelity, compassionate, etc.

What if you embraced that thought?

Sage