Hi GEL, I am working on verbal communication when ML and it's not easy. Both H and I are silent types and for me, something was missing. I saw I relied too much on going into my own head instead of developing a connection. I knew I had to confront this.
We are starting to make progress in this area. I love it when he says something encouraging to me, and we have dabbled just a bit into dirty talk. But one thing that has been really amazing is that I am able to speak up and say that something isn't working. This happened last nite...I was having difficulty with arousal, and I stopped the whole thing and said I need to regroup. He was so "with me" at that point, no judgment, no hurtful feelings, and we went on to reconnect intimately. I am truly in awe of anyone who can talk comfortably during sex and would love to hear any suggestions on how to do this better. J
