That's really what was killing me in my sitch with my LDH as well...and it still does, considering we haven't really increased frequency yet. He knows what the problem is, he can even empathize with me now...but he still hasn't done what to me seems so simple now. What I have to force myself to remember on a constant basis...is that once it wasn't so easy for me. For those of us who are HD physical contact and intimacy can come so easily...for LD's however you may as well be asking them to row across the Pacific Ocean with a toothpick for a paddle. If at all possible find out what your LDW's true issue is...if she'll give you a clue...and try to help her past that if you can. If she seems awkward/self concious in bed...tell her how well she does something...not just that you like it. I know for me that really helped...Just food for thought. I'm sure many of you guys have tried that...just thought I'd bring it up again.
