Yes...unfortunately she does hold the cards. Fortunately for her though you do value your marriage (I'm not saying she doesn't) and you are willing to keep trying. And definitely keep trying as long as you are willing to...one of those things you try may just be the catalyst that causes her to wake up.
I think you're right though that people do tend to associate with others similar to themselves. Now that I think about it my closest friends I would consider to be HD...so they've definitely influenced me. If given the chance I'd do my damndest to influence your W too :-)
