Thanks Nik! I had a minor setback on Friday with the dialogue thing - a contraversial topic and then I revisited it with H to see how he "felt" about it. He shutdown and I so Hate that and he said he was telling himself he wasnt being attacked. And he definitely wasnt. Not a good drive to the lake- I was really upset the whole time. I dont know why I take this so hard but I keep thinking we will be able to address the PA and take it in stride as in be able to refer to it without a ton of pain around it. H keeps saying he feels bad about himself. I then start thinking its because he is calling the OW again. But I have no other reason to think that - no suspicious behavoir. We got a ton of work done at the lake- H kind of grouchy when he works and steered clear of getting blamed for anything related to his frustration- H is working very much on this anyway. As we drove home he said he "liked me and I was a good woman" kind of a funny thing but made me feel good . Nothing else to report- as we drove back to Cincinnati, I just felt this weight fall on my shoulders- kind of reality of what has happened and I realize how much I hold on to. I have to focus on today- and communicating, living, smiling and connecting with my Ds and friends. This is a short list of goals I guess. have a great day everyone!
Good luck Nik! Hope you have what you want this time.
and he said he was telling himself he wasnt being attacked. And he definitely wasnt. Not a good drive to the lake- I was really upset the whole time. I dont know why I take this so hard but I keep thinking we will be able to address the PA and take it in stride as in be able to refer to it without a ton of pain around it. H keeps saying he feels bad about himself. I then start thinking its because he is calling the OW again. But I have no other reason to think that - no suspicious behavoir. We got a ton of work done at the lake- H kind of grouchy when he works and steered clear of getting blamed for anything related to his frustration- H is working very much on this anyway. As we drove home he said he "liked me and I was a good woman" kind of a funny thing but made me feel good 
. Nothing else to report- as we drove back to Cincinnati, I just felt this weight fall on my shoulders- kind of reality of what has happened and I realize how much I hold on to. I have to focus on today- and communicating, living, smiling and connecting with my Ds and friends. This is a short list of goals I guess. have a great day everyone!