My H and I also went to Retrouvaille!! Looking back it was during his EA/PA, so it ended up not being as beneficial. I do think we could always start to dialogue again and pick up where we left off. Do you go to the CORE meetings? We don't, but I would like to.
The phone thing is huge for me. I wish we could just throw our cell phones away!! I love what Pen wrote.
My H is definately waiting for me to make the decision. Everytime I tell him I am "done" H wakes up for a moment and then falls back into the "I don't know" phase.