Hi Deb, thanks for posting - i guess we will figure this out! what is the big deal about cell phones? and what is so damn interesting? anyway, i do best when i dont think about it. I read somewhere that your own ego causes you to beat yourself up and not allow yourself to forgive. I read a book called " I will never leave you" H liked it too. The author has been through it all and really lays out affairs in plain english. He said that an affair will never be a healthy relationship because they are based on dishonesty. I will have to refresh on this tonight. Very good stuff and H liked it too. One thing I dont get is that H is really all that sorry. He said he has to live with it the rest of his life, and a couple of times been really remorseful but i think he cant function with all the guilt and pain if he really let himself realize what he did. I guess he is in denial just to survive his own guilty feelings. Good luck Deb and one thing I keep thinking is that it is not my fault he chooses to hurt OR. I am not responsible for that and worrying about it makes it worse in that it makes it too hard for him to be with me if all it does is remind him of the pain of OR and the PA. LOL Shay
anyway, i do best when i dont think about it. I read somewhere that your own ego causes you to beat yourself up and not allow yourself to forgive. I read a book called " I will never leave you" H liked it too. The author has been through it all and really lays out affairs in plain english. He said that an affair will never be a healthy relationship because they are based on dishonesty. I will have to refresh on this tonight. Very good stuff and H liked it too. One thing I dont get is that H is really all that sorry. He said he has to live with it the rest of his life, and a couple of times been really remorseful but i think he cant function with all the guilt and pain if he really let himself realize what he did. I guess he is in denial just to survive his own guilty feelings. Good luck Deb and one thing I keep thinking is that it is not my fault he chooses to hurt OR. I am not responsible for that and worrying about it makes it worse in that it makes it too hard for him to be with me if all it does is remind him of the pain of OR and the PA.