Wow, I can feel your pain. I am still suspicious of my H and I actually trust that he is no longer talking to her....probably because she called off R, so I think she wont contact him anyways. Plus I think he is too embarrassed and hurt so he just wants to avoid her at all costs...but it still doesnt mean I dont get suspicious..it was my life for 6 mos!! Its a hard habit to break. Plus when I told him I was suspicious, he got upset and I think that might be part of the reason he is sleeping in the other room again. Why cant they understand that we also need some time to deal with what has been going on...its not like we just sat back and waited...we went thru a lot of pain. I try my hardest not to think about things that happened with them..that will be the only way for me to truly work on our marriage, and so I think you are doing a good thing by just putting it to rest..it will help you to deal with the here and now!! Good luck!! Im right here with ya!! Angie
