You know what? I would love for my H to have a company function that I could go to with him and our kids. My H's EA was with someone he met through work people and I would love to go and show them that we are married and together - forever!
Would you consider going to it? Even if you get uncomfortable, you and the kids can do plenty to keep busy and still have fun. You are showing a united front to the very folks that need to see it.
Don't let the OW win by scaring you away. You H wants to go socialize with the people he works with - and it is a family event. GO! Have fun! Buy something flirty to wear (it is a family event so you don't want toooooo sexy!) and go for it! It could be a great PMA boost for the both of you.
Your tone sets the tone for how this one works out. Take the high road and see this as a golden opportunity. I know I would!
And regarding not always talking - I think there is a time and place for it all. You can't talk R all the time or you will burn out on the topic. You can however, converse about daily life and your family and whatever else so the two of you reconnect on that front.
I find that we talk more about the little things but there are times when we don't talk too. I need to be okay with that - without always asking - is something wrong? That must get old on their part huh?
Anyway, hang in there. Remember what you did that brought him home and keep doing it. "Live AS IF" don't "Act AS IF" and it will become easier every day!
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
