Hey KMFLA!

Been meaning to post but have had to lurk this week, congrats on your H moving home. Enjoy it, go with the flow and try not to second guess everything...

How do I know this? Because I have to remind myself of it every day too. Remember my H has been home one month (yesterday) and everyday brings a moment (or ten) of questions. Some I ask, some I don't.

You got lucky asking him if he really wants to be home - I wouldn't advise that one again. But, I would keep the lines of communication open however awkward it might be.

And remember to "live AS IF" not "act AS IF". Acting is to easy to stop doing. But living becomes a habit.

As for your positives, they are great. We too have been daily but I strained my low back (not BTW! LOL!) so we've had to ease up a bit this week. I am not minding the slower pace, but it sure has been fun seeing when and where we can find time without kids. is not always about bedtime and closed doors you know!

Enjoy, have fun, journal here for the benefit of others. I am trying to do that in my thread too. It would be easy to quit posting when they come home but I truly think the hard work has just begun.

You are doing great work! Be his friend and supporter. He is looking for another position correct? Support him. It must be awful having to face her every day. If you greet him with a smile and a hug, then he will look to you as his rock and safe place and her as a pain in the A$$. The feelings will fade quickly in that mode, don't you think?


totite "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."