Thanks for the thoughts
This is soooooooo hard though. H moved back home because he and I want to work out this marriage. He has ended it with the OW but was honest that he still has feelings for her. Working with her makes that even more difficult. I am in this with my eyes wide open but it still hurts knowing he has deep feelings for someone else. I read into everything and I know I shouldnt. He came home from the office yesterday and seemed down. We had no kids last night so I suggested that we get on the bike and head to the beach for a ride. His reaction was "I dont know if I want to do that, I'm tired" Well we have never passed up an opportunity to go for a ride when the kids arent around. So I got a little testy in the way I do and said "never mind I will go to the store and get something for dinner" He came around a few minutes later and said "lets go". So while we were getting ready I asked him "Do you want to be here or do you think you made a mistake coming home"... I know I know wrong move hit me over the head with that 2 X 4..... He said "I want to work it out.., but its hard and I am scared" So we got a little emotional, talked a little and then both of us bounced back. We went for that ride and it was nice. Came home and watched a little TV. I waited up for S16 to come home from work. When I went to bed H was still awake and we had a wonderful time ML. This moring he got up and was getting ready and when I woke up, he looked at me and said "Hi Mom" which is what he always did. Amazing how some small comment can mean so much. He also took the time to have a cup of coffee with me before going to office. So I keep telling myself to keep up the PMA and stop reading into everything and give him the space that he needs especially after being at work all day. I keep saying it over and over....

The positives are:

H is home with me

H still wants to take vacation at the end of month

H left the office early everyday this week and said this am he wanted to find an excuse to leave early today too. (I see this as he wants to get away from OW and the emotions that go with that...)(She is distraught over his moving back home)

H acknowledged me when I woke up this am

ML every night since he has been home.

Lots of postives right. Hope I can stay focused on those.
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.