I’m back from some real-world time to check on one of my favourite posters ..... and just wanted to say “congratulations”. Congratulations for the hard work you’ve put in, congratulations for the person you’ve become, congratulations for all that you’re doing for others (standing like a brick beside D7 not least among them) - and finally, congratulations for finding some peace for yourself. You deserve it.
In all honesty, I saw this coming …. Thus my question a while back if you felt that you’d ‘outgrown’ him. Without quite knowing how to say it, I guess I was asking if you felt what he had to offer was what you wanted in a man. You do deserve the full package – the passion, the desire, the deep commitment. If that’s not something he can muster, so be it. You’ll remain great friends and great co-parents to your Ds.
Perhaps – and I say this with some hesitation – perhaps you’re even doing him a favour. Perhaps he really can’t make a commitment of intimacy on the level that you need, and would be miserable trying. Perhaps your decision actually sets him free to be himself. There are some people who really don’t have the palate or the patience for a five-course French-cooked gourmet meal, and and much better with a burger and some fries. If you know what I mean.
All the best of luck to you, Betsey. You deserve the best, and it’s out there, just waiting for you to meet it.
