Friends, Squatters & Lurkers--Fishbowl musings

[TripleJ]

Bets, my DB friend, i just want to jot down my thoughts here.

I have been on this BB close to 9 months now, and have posted to you and gotten to know you from the onset. I have watched you grow, stumble, recover and grow some more for those 9 months, and have read what you have accomplished for 10 months prior to that.

The person you are today is no where near the person you were 2 years ago. You are more enlightened, more proud of yourself, more genuine than you could ever have imagined 2 years ago.

And this is why I trust that the decisions that you make today and for the rest of your life will not be made in haste nor uninformed.

There will come a point in each and every one of our journeys here on the BB where we stand at the crossroads. And I don't mean little intersections where we have to choose what we have for dinner and so forth.... I mean the one major crossroad, whether the journey has taken us to a place where we know in our hearts that we can survive, with or without the one we have been fighting for.

Truth is, and I think so many people have lost sight of this, is that we aren't necessarily fighting for our M's, our spouses, our kids, our R's... WE ARE FIGHTING FOR OURSELVES!!! Without fighting for ourselves, none of the above can ever happen. We could not achieve the capacity to see what we need to do around us unless we ourselves know what we can do.

You have achieved that Betsey, more than anyone here. You have EARNED the right to make the decision you are making today. And for that, I can not begrudge you.

I am so glad I have gotten to know you. You have become the sunshine of alot of us here, whether you choose to or not. And it is not because you have saved your M or you haven't, its because you have saved yourself. BRAVO!

I would venture to guess that many of us don't know what to say about your latest post.

IMO, Mr. W must be nuts. He is that guy at the train station, waiting for the train to depart to that mystery destination. And when that train is ready to leave the station, he decides not to climb aboard and see where that next destination is at, because he is afraid that the train may derail.

You have fought for 19 months now, with gallant effort. And I believe you have achieved many of your goals.

All smiles today Betsey! Because you are you, and no one else!

Triple J