Sounds good, doesn't it? Make sure he doenst' squeak out of a committment to move back tho....ya know what they say about P/A...you gotta hold their feet to the fire at the exact opportune moment.
I am picking up D at the airport tonight @ 9. Will be leaving for Denver about 4. You know my cell. Call if you need to talk after, ok? Love, GodSpeed. Trust in Him and Trust Love.
Well Betsey, you continue to move forward w/confidence and a purpose and I commend you for that. You have been a tenacious DBer and have come through w/flying colors. While I use your methods as a learning tool, I definitely do not have the same R w/my WAS as you do w/Mr. W so it becomes a bit more tricky on my end. Nevertheless, we are both at the same point in the process (18mos for S, no more trying to reconcile, etc...), you have stepped up on me by announcing it to your D as I have been pondering that subject myself for the kids.
I wish you all the luck w/your discussions and w/Mr. W and know that in the end, your friendship is still there regardless of the outcome. You should be one of Michelle's success stories regardless as you have used these tools for yourself, like she professes. Good luck and God bless you and your girls. Tootles............
I love the part about finding peace. I am going to try to start looking at this looming D as perhaps a pathway to peace. I completely understand about being tired of thinking about H. And, I too, am exhausted. This stuff is so incredibly draining on everyone, especially the kids.
Good luck, Betsey. And take your vitamins... cause it looks like a long, interesting road ahead. But, it is definitely the road less traveled, and from the looks of things, Mr. W is packing a lunch to join you.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I will be taking my vitamins, HOn, and any other fortifying substance required to stomach what might lurk on this path.
Little Bill put it how I think of this mess: cautiously optimistic. Of course, I am optimistic by nature anyway, and I know that I will land on all fours with my parts intact.
Oddly enough, my conversation was delivered with dignity and quiet strength and there wasn't a tear looming on the horizon. And what surprised me is that he was not reacting to anything I said. His side was delivered with conviction and a modest amount of humility.
But talk is cheap at this point, you know?
I'm interested enough to listen, after all I've been waiting for him to speak for 18 months. I'm determined to get peace, and I'm willing to pay a price for it. I just don't know what color and shape it will look like yet, though.
PIB, I don't know if I'm ready for all of this. But I figure I'll devote some time to prayer and meditating and rely on the help of my fellow helicopter pilots to see this through.
I'm also really proud of my D10. I thank God every day for blessing me with her and her talent for getting me to see things the way they are. After all, it was she who told me the night her dad moved out that my anger scared her...
I don't know if I'm comfortable being an inspiration... but if anyone else has learned from my mistakes (and my skirmishes and my successes), I'm glad. I'm not advising this path for anyone... the timing was right and the risk was worth it.
So hold on tight. We'll see where this ride takes us.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey, Could it be that..gulp..MW is growing up?! All this talk about going to bed early and being a party pooper...who IS this guy?
I don't know what it was, but there was a "tone" to the conversation..maybe it was the fact that he was leading so many of the positive aspects of it, instead of staying firmly in reacting mode, that makes it so uplifting and hopeful! I am very happy for you and even happier about the peace.
Have fun with D10 tonight; I know that daughters have a way of comforting the soul.
Betsey ( the not so evil one) WOW this really seems like the real deal. I sure hope Mr.W is having his much needed awakening?
You have been at this for a very long time and have helped me several times, I sure hope this turns out to be that big turn we all hope for, I am pulling for you and hope you get the peace you and the girls deserve, and maybe even put your M back on track
Not much new on my front, almost a year into it and D will likely be final soon, still just staying pretty dark and only talking about kid and house stuff mostly, I am being as nice as I can but she still doesen't want to talk much so I do not push it, she is dating and seems to have moved on mostly, although it sounds like she had a falling out with her Dr. friend
Not sure where I am going right now, did a little dating myself, probably a mistake as my heart is still tied up with W for now, just gonna hang till the escrow closes and I get moved back closer to the kids and see what happens.
Oh yes. I am sending a prayer that this marks a beginning for your family that will bring you peace...with happiness, joy and great love in the home. I see this turnaround and am grateful for you, your daughters...(mr w) and you know, betsey? I am grateful for all of us...because your much deserved respite will bring us all that much closer to understanding how it is done.
do you wonder at all why you are so loved and appreciated here on the db bb?
Betsey 
