I love the part about finding peace. I am going to try to start looking at this looming D as perhaps a pathway to peace. I completely understand about being tired of thinking about H. And, I too, am exhausted. This stuff is so incredibly draining on everyone, especially the kids.
Good luck, Betsey. And take your vitamins... cause it looks like a long, interesting road ahead. But, it is definitely the road less traveled, and from the looks of things, Mr. W is packing a lunch to join you.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.