Friends, Squatters & Lurkers--Fishbowl musings

[SadBurl]

Let's start the dialogue with a question. Joanne, why do you think your H lies?

Firstly I think he has been lieing all his life and he now doesn't know the difference. I beieve no one has ever laid down any boundaries with him and it was easier just to walk(run) away.

Secondly it is my belief and its only an ASSumption is that if he tells the truth it will hurt me and then I might just walk away from him. In other words "I will hurt you first before you can hurt me" I suppose as you said

Of course this is poppycock. Even the smallest lie can hurt more than telling the truth even when the truth will hurt. Doesn't he realise that I will find out as I always have or is there no rational thinking when it comes to lieing.

So how do you lay down the boundaries without sounding like an angry parent and stop the WAS fear honesty?