Are you questioning how we guard ourselves to the potential affair, or how we guard our marriages from infidelity?
There are certainly no guarantees in life. The only thing that can be certain is death, and even that has a varying degree of uncertainty in itself. So in essence, you cannot guard a marriage from infidelity. What you may find yourself doing is wasting your time trying opposed to living your life at the moment.
If you carry on a communicative, respectful relationship with your spouse, if you apply the DB principles to your everyday life, if you are mindful of your spouse’s love language and take care of yourself you are certainly lowering the chances of infidelity striking your marriage. By not letting your relationship fall into a routine, a rut, a dead end or whatever other cliché you’d prefer to apply, you are taking precautions against its demise. But cancer strikes the healthy. Nothing is certain.
Why though, dwell on what you cannot control? Why would you wake up each day and say to yourself, what if I am stricken with an uncontrollable disease? Would you not be living your life in fear of something you cannot control? But instead, if you eat healthy, exercise often and take care of yourself – you’re doing your part in keeping things on a healthy level and not wasting your time on what-ifs.
Pen, I don’t know your story. I do know that you communicate your thoughts on the board eloquently and you seem very in touch with your own feelings. But I have to wonder why you’d spend an incredible amount of energy wondering what we on the board think of a letter and your neighbor’s opinion of it, and now how we guard our marriage against the uncontrollable. Is there a specific fear that you are trying to address with us?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
