English, hmm? :: waves to Slowly:: I’m a half-breed myself - French mother, German father, currently relocated to the Sunshine State, and finding the transition challenging. Nice people, but the washing machines are a nightmare.
Thank you, PIB and BoldandBeautiful ! You’re both right; I’ve let one person’s opinion carry too much weight with me. While it is good and desirable to ask for feedback, and to consider (nice word) it, in the end, we must go with what feels right to us . GD1 , what my neighbour said was that the members here would be offended, but that might have been a polite way to tell me that she herself found it offensive. I’ll have to ask.
Sooo, now for something else I’ve been “considering” since reading Slowly’s “checklist” via the letter …… when I first came to this board, I had the fixed impression in my head that any marriage vulnerable to an affair must be in some way fundamentally flawed. (yes, I know – shoot me. *smile*). Then, as I progressed, I considered that perhaps, it needn’t always be like that – that in some cases, one person’s problems and demons past and future might be quite sufficient to break a marriage apart, even if the other person is doing everything “right” (classical midlife crisis scenario).
And now, I’m even considering that a perfectly happy marriage, where both partners are anything but unhappy, and might even describe themselves as “very happy” only a few weeks before might be susceptible to an affair ….. simply because one partner allowed a friendship to go too far, out of carelessness more than anything. A garden analogy – if we don’t take care to regularly pull out the volunteers while they are still small, we suddenly have a tree that will require a saw to cut down.
If this is true (and I’m beginning to think it must be) how do we guard ourselves against such a thing happening?
