Hi Betsey! (Pam, don't worry, it was me she was talking to.. )
Well, I didn't mean to throw a carrot out there and never follow up. I just was not in the mood to post, that's all. Sometimes I get in these reverse field of dreams moods where I think that if I DON'T post, then I will have nothing to post ABOUT. Also, some days I am in the mood to spill my guts and some days I'm not. On the days when I'm not, I tend to stay away lest I drudge up some feelings that otherwise would not have been there, kwim.
Anyway, I finally did write it all out as coherently as I could. It is in my thread in the SSM forum and should be the very last post. Things are well-but-boring in my neck of the woods.