wildebube said: --------------- I think that's what the C was getting at in her suggestion about finding out what my W wanted me to change. I haven't yet found the need to offer it as a business proposition like she suggested, but I have been feeling W out and trying to find out what she would like me to change. I finally got a couple of things out of her this weekend, so I have my homework cut out for me. ---------------
Outstanding!
The thing is, even if it doesn't improve your sex life, you have improved the life of someone you love. A loving gift that directly addresses someone else's need is a very good thing to give. It doesn't need to be a 'trade'.
My wife's willingness to finally (that Is how I saw it) address my needs resulted in me eventually realizing that she was not the only neglectful being in the relationship :-) IT takes two to tango - in more ways than one.
Hang in there. It is a tough road to travel, but there are prizes at the end that make it all worthwhile.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
