HD, From my end, it looks as if you and your W communicate quite well until it gets to the "resolution" point. Then it all breaks down.
There was lots of talk about what you both wanted but none about what you were both willing to GIVE.
What if you were to ask her, "What are you willing to give, in terms of a sex life?" Would phrasing it in "willing or unwilling" words have an impact on her? It did with my H..prior to that, I don't think he saw it as something that he was either willing or unwilling to do..he just sorta went with whatever and gave it no thought. However, knowing your W she may turn it into some bullsh*t pseudo-feminist rant about how women have been giving to men for centuries, huh!
Good luck, HD, and wasn't the weather wild this past weekend!
