Hairdog, I sympathize, I really do, and I am PROUD of you (as you must be of yourself) for holding onto yourself like that! Bravo! That's fantastic! I KNOW it doesn't FEEL that way right now, but it is.
Obviously you have to read the situation and do what you think is best, but I do think you have to stand your ground or your marriage won't be worth saving anyway. If you give in, when your integrity tells you not to, you won't like or respect yourSELF, and neither will your W. If you DO stick to your guns, she won't like it, but I bet she'll eventually give you grudging respect. And if she DOES suggest you stay behind while she goes to her mom's, I'd LET her, if I were you. Let her see you're willing to watch her backside walking away from you... call her bluff, because I'm betting that's all it is. She'd leave you over this? If that's true, she didn't have much of a comittment anyway. You've only been in your home a YEAR. How long has it been that you've been suffering in a SSM (not to mention the long-distance thing)? You have MUCH more invested.
