Excavating a piece of your current land to make room for a garden would cost a whole bunch less than moving.
As it is practiced, law can be as much about intimidation as it is about logic and rules. (Like I'm telling you something you don't know...) I think some of that bleeds over into marriage. My guess is that she wants to respect you and she wants to want you. But sometimes she can't help herself and so pushes.
You, like most men, are civilized and peace loving and would rather not fight. Your W is a trained "fighter."
Stand your ground, man. What's best for the kids? Hammer that point.
