We looked at the house yesterday afternoon. It would be a great place to live . . . if I didn't have four kids with various sports/activities, a complicated custody schedule, and if I had either a lot of skills in remodeling, or a lot of money to pay remodelers. Plus, even if the 100 year old house was perfect (and didn't need about $50 - $100,000 in work), there are 7 acres of pasture, fruit trees, a garden, about 8 outbuildings, etc., to take care of. Me and my three clones might be able to handle it, but it exhausted me just looking at it.
We had also looked at a house that was about that old, but that had been adequately remodeled, that we could probably live in just fine. It was on 3 acres, was within about 15-20 minutes of my present home, and was within our price range.
But why the heck would we move? Our current house is just about perfect. She'd agree. What she doesn't like about it is that it is in a suburban neighborhood. She wants some room to garden (our lot is hilly and wooded, with little or no room to garden). We've only lived here for a year. The kids are able to ride their bikes back and forth between my house and their mom's house. If they forget something in either place, it is easy to go and pick it up. These options would be complicated by moving to any other house.
I told her I wanted to think about it. Why I didn't just tell her NO, I'm not sure, but I think if falls into the "fearless self-disclosure" category. I need to get past this. My fear is pretty groundless. That she'll leave me if I don't agree with her? Doubtful, of course. That she'll be pissed off with me? So what else is new? That she'll cut me off from sex? Don't make me laugh.
