W says there is no such thing as a Honeypot!

[MJontheMend]

For example, in research menopause, I learned that unless women fantasize erotically at least three times a week, their levels of testosterone drop to near zero. So it becomes a mind thing, to get your body to produce any sex hormones at all

As a HDW who feels that the majority of her sex drive is fantasy driven, I find this very interesting.It kind of relates to something that happened to me the other day. My previously LDH and I have been having a lot of phone sex lately since he is away on business. After an awkward first attempt, I've really gotten into the phone sex. My H telling me his fantasies or even just responding to mine verbally is a huge turn on for me. It's also been a great learning experience since I've been able to get more specific input from my H about what exactly gets him going. I was actually quite surprised by some of his fantasies.

The other night he called me and told me what he'd been fantasizing about that day. He said he'd call me back in about 20 minutes when he was in a situation that offered more privacy. Now here is the weird part, I went LD! I was laying on the bed waiting for his call and trying to get into the fantasy and nothing was coming, no mental images, no feelings of arousal etc. I got kind of freaked out for a minute, probably the equivalent feeling that a HD guy might get if he couldn't get an erection. It was like my blood stream was emptied of sex juice. I don't remember ever feeling like this before.

I told myself to relax and rubbed my nipples for a couple minutes and I was right back in my usual HD groove, but it was a learning experience for me. If that is what it's like to be a LDW, I am very glad I am not one, but I can understand why they wouldn't want to have sex if that is how their bodies operate. If I ever find myself in that state for more than a couple minutes, I will be buying all the hormones I can get my hands on.