Quote: I teach a course in gender & sexuality, albeit only once every couple of years.
I did not know this. You are a great resource for this board, SBH!
Quote: Still, my perception is that there really and truly are asexual or naturally celibate people - a category of folk that perhaps needs its own advocacy group.
I think you might find some interesting information on asexuality and its inevitable advocacy group at www.asexuality.org. Yes, I found it while researching the possibility that my wife was a charter member. I have since determined that she is just a very low drive. Believe it or not, she once declared to me that she has a "normal" sex drive. I suppose it depends on what one's definition of "normal" is. I have since tried to avoid making her feel "abnormal" or placing her drive or our relationship in any type of comparative continuum. Just like I really don't think I'm "high drive" in any other sense than when you compare me to her. I am not a sex fiend. I just like it. What's not to like?
Quote: But I can easily see how a woman with lower drive, whose husband ALWAYS has higher drive - no matter what she might experience - would believe that no HDW's exist at all. It's just too counter to her own experience.
That's where my W fits in. But for someone who is so tolerant of other people's views in general, she has such a narrow view here that it has to have some kind of psychological component...defensive in nature, I would guess.
But I'm not a shrink, and I doubt I would get her to go see one, so I have to try to get through this with my wits and my "brass balls" intact.
Hairdog - whose wife initiated a kiss last night, sniffed him and said he smelled "manly."
