Quote: Men are SUPPOSED to be horny. it has to be really tough on both partners when they're not. Locker room talk, TV, everything tells men that the should be horny all the time. You couldn't help but feel that there was something wrong with you if you weren't.
And a W with a ND/LDH couldn't help but question herself. ALL men want sex. Ergo, MY H must want sex. He doesn't. Do it MUST be that he doesn't want sex with me. Wow. Wildebube
You know what's really hard? Watching TV and a commercial comes on that sexy, romantic, etc. --- you get the idea. I find it hard to believe that nothing turns my husband on. There's never a comment (as one would expect) about this or that woman looking nice/sexy/hot, etc. I've never seen him oogle another woman, either. It's almost as if he's a eunuch.
I don't consider myself to be HD. I consider myself to be Normal Desire. Once every other week would be great.
In the beginning, sex was good and once or twice a week. Over time, it has dwindled to nothing. And yes, I'm enabling him to continue in this way because I no longer force the issue. Or even mention it.
I don't think that makes me bad. I don't think it means that I don't care enough for my marriage to try and work things out. Especially after trying and being rejected so many times in the past.
As much as I would LOVE it if H was horny at any time (!), it ain't gonna happen.
