Quote: We have become a culture that is dependent on drugs to alter everything about ourselves that we do not want to change on our own.
So true! And the worst thing about it is that it can go both ways. If we accept that low desire is a "sexual dysfunction" that needs a chemical "fix", then maybe HIGH desire is ALSO a "sexual dysfunction" that ALSO needs a chemical "fix". Where does it end? So for instance, if HD points this out to his W, and by implication says that there is "something wrong" with her that needs to be "fixed", then she is QUITE justified in turning it around and suggesting that maybe there's something wrong with HIM that needs fixing. How about them apples?
Whereas if we accept that low desire is a NORMAL and NATURAL part of the dynamics and harmonics of a NORMAL long-term committed relationship, something that can be EXPECTED to occur, and that the "fix" for it is working through issues with the RELATIONSHIP, it takes on a completely different aspect. If Schnarch is right, and I think he REALLY is, then what a message of hope - EVERYONE has it within them to find the happiness they desire, without spending goodles of money on drugs! Of course, the pharmacutical industry doesn't want to hear something like that...
