Here's an interesting mental exercise for all of us HD folks... try to find a situation where YOU are the LD partner, and your spouse is HD, and try to analyze that in terms of your sexual interactions with your spouse.
Example: This morning, as I was getting ready for work, W was talking about several household projects she'd like done, involving shelving and cupboards. She'd like me to build extra shelves in the garage, and she'd like to purchase at least one additional large cupboard for the family room where she could store things. She's perpetually bothered about the fact that the crawl space in our home is pretty full, and it is a major issue if anything needs to be retrieved from there.
So I'm thinking, "He!!'s Bells, woman..." So far this year we've done a major repainting project, cleaned the garage, planted gardens (including constructing a new rock garden), tore out a wall in the laundry room so the Water folks could install a new water meter, put drywall up where the old wall had been, etc... and now she wants still more projects done, whereas I feel I've earned a much-deserved rest from all this work. BING! Light goes on... I wonder if this is how she feels about sex? At least some of the time?
Of course, household projects are NOT the kind of thing that sustains a life-long marriage, so the analogy goes only so far. OTOH, Hairdog, do you think your wife would argue that one COULD sustain a marriage on the basis of how many household projects get done, and how often? Would she take that case, do you think? I guess I'm wondering if this could be a way for a productive discussion to get under way, and maybe get her thinking in terms OTHER than the "Cave-Man" model of sexual relations...?
