Oh my goodness, I nearly spewed cocoa all over my new computer when I read the heading to this post!

LOLOLOLOL

Your wife, the so called feminist, really has no clue about what it means to be a man or a woman. She took too many Womens Studies classes in college, evidently.
Seriously, that view is just so warped and old-fashioned sounding to my ears! If you truly resent male domination, and you go after equal pay for equal jobs, a higher percentage of executive level positions for women, and just in general a piece of the Male Pie (yummm, btw)--then wouldn't that extend also to enjoying sex?

I'm tellin ya, it has NOTHING to do with feminism or the pharmeceutical industry (which I would agree is filled with a bunch of snake oil selling aholes); it has to do with the fact that she doesn't feel desire and is grasping for straws in order to defend WHY.

Hairdog, not only do I want more sex than my H, I have wanted more sex than the males in several relationships that I've been in.
What can I say, some women just like sex and operate in the more traditional 'male' role when it comes to sexual relationships. And I have no illusions about my H truly being LD...with another woman, he would most likely be the HD partner, although he would never get so frustrated that he would read a book or seek out help, as you fine gentlemen have done. He has a LOT of control over his sex drive.

Just as your wife does. But here is what she is missing in the Increase Your Sex Drive rally: Women would be HAPPIER with a higher sex drive. Sex increases the love and goodwill that you feel towards your spouse. You are healthier and feel better about yourself. Your marriage is stronger. You set a better example for your kids.
Etc (which is Latin for blah, blah, HD. )

MAN, I want to have a talk with your wife and explain to her that her view of the world is HER reality, not the definitive reality. Sex is not a win/lose proposition where if HD gets it, the Missus loses. How bizarre!

She is one frustrating woman; however, if I met her in person I suspect that I'd like her and we'd have some, uh, spirited discussions.

Hey here is some anecdotal evidence for ya to further solidify my case: A few years ago, I belonged to a bookclub, consisting of myself and 3 other ladies. Two of the women griped about their husbands pawing at the all the time and of course I never said a word, either of sympathy or to disclose my own situation (much too embarrassed at the time, unlike now). The remaining lady never said much either but she was kind of a proper sort of person. Then one day she cornered me and asked, Does (H) do what the other husbands do? I said No he doesn't. Then we began this long conversation about our LD husbands..this was the first time I had ever heard of another man having a lower drive than his wife--all along I thought it was me and that H just wasn't attracted to me anymore. That conversation really changed things for me and shifted my thinking. I was, oh, 8.5 mos preg at the time so there was no action to be taken at that time, but once I was out of the post partum 'no sex' period, I confronted him head on about it.

Anyway, my point is that your wife desperately needs to come into contact with someone who does NOT share her view on sex and men and can look at HER like she is the nutty one who is acting like a 50's housewife.

A bottle of booze and a night with Mrs. Hairy and I think I could at least get her to agree that her view aint the only one and at most maybe I could get her horny enough to go home and jump Hairyman.