I love you, too, SD. Let's hug! I totally follow you on the "attention" issue. Every day, before I head downstairs and out the door, I kiss my sleepy wife, tell her I love her, and say goodbye. On the rare morning when I am SOOOO pissed off that I don't want to come anywhere close to her (without a defensive weapon in hand), and fail to say goodbye, she calls me as I am driving away and berates me for purposefully avoiding this, intending to hurt her, etc.
I have definitely lessened the amount of attention/availability I have given her over the last few months. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to have much of an effect. Maybe it will eventually.
Hairdog - who's glad that SD is having successes, but who misses his ol' daily update. Happy Independence Day, you ex-colonizer.
I totally follow you on the "attention" issue. Every day, before I head downstairs and out the door, I kiss my sleepy wife, tell her I love her, and say goodbye. On the rare morning when I am SOOOO pissed off that I don't want to come anywhere close to her (without a defensive weapon in hand), and fail to say goodbye, she calls me as I am driving away and berates me for purposefully avoiding this, intending to hurt her, etc. 
