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His point was that mental castration is something we've all tried as a solution, but it doesn't work.



Now THAT'S a relief! Seriously...I've felt like I've been floundering in this morass for so long, grasping at straws, and honestly have thought that resolving to go without is the best last hope. To discover that taking such a drastic position about this is evidently a common means of trying to cope with it gives me pause.

And, as you said, the fact that our relationship is so strong otherwise will only help the situation when I am able and armed to deal with it.