Many of us have been there, but like Hairdog said, if you want things to change you're going to have to make some changes that risk the R that you so cherish. There was never any sex in my marriage to start with, but we did (and still do) have that R that you described thusly:
Quote: We are very much in love with each other, and couldn't imagine being apart. We are the best of friends, and talk candidly about anything and everything, including our sexual dysfunction (up to a point). We spend every minute together that we can, because we want to. I can't imagine a better situation than being married to someone who is so much my soul mate. That is, except for sex.
There just came a time when that wasn't good enough any more. If that's what you have, how is that any different than just being very good friends? There came a time, possibly prompted by the feeling that my life was slipping through my fingers, when I decided to face the truth: I wasn't happy with a sexless M and nothing was ever going to change unless I changed it. If you're happy with being good friends, go ahead and castrate yourself. If you're not, if you're ready to put some things you value on the line, welcome.
