I'm sorry you feel the backslide... and that this computer time is interfering with healing.
Just remember that this is a consequence for a previous behavior... and that trust is built over time. He's feeling fear because of the past, and it's going to have to take some more patience on your part to get through this.
From what you said, it sounds as though your H really and truly feels that your internet "obsession" is preventing you from doing what he feels should be your priorities as a mother and wife? How do you feel about this statement?
Has he told you what it looks like to him when you are doing things that show him you are responsible and dedicated to the family?
Let's face it, your cyber addiction HAS created a problem for you in the past, and his fears are founded. However, that's in the past, and it would be pretty unreasonable for him or anyone else to prohibit you from ever using the computer again.
I guess I'm asking if it's possible for the 2 of you to sit down (while neither one of you are "down") to discuss what you feel needs to happen for both of you to take a step forward?
Listen, and become solution oriented rather than defensive. I think you can do this, C&S...
Hugs,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 