Oh, I see something here that calls for pointing out. Would you feel more loved by him if he were to validate your feelings and the need to feel under the weather with some TLC (being wimpy)?
Have you read the Five Love Languages? (otherwise known as the 5LL here) Author is Gary Chapman. Even Mr. Wonderful has read the book, and he found it interesting. Also, another book by John Gray titled "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus."
Once you read them, then we'll think of a way you can "encourage" your H to read them too. By then, he might be a little more receptive to hear why you were looking for what you were seeking outside the M.
Keep smiling!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 