Thanks Jackie, i just read through you posts.. good for you on standing up for yourself.

My Therapist appointment went really well. She feels that i need to distance myself from my mother and start creating my own identity... i agree. (I am more the parent in our R) I need to work on DB her... anyway we discussed finding ways to relax and not having to control everything and being kinder to myself ect... I'm going to go get some more library books to read over vacation to keep from talking about the R. I def. am going cold turkey with not calling the cellphone or checking the emails.. its the only way. H called today to see how T appointment went. He didnt say ILY, but that is okay, its nice that he called. we are going to my parents tonight for supper. I feel somewhat excited like i have been giving a new chance.. i'm a little scared that i will fail however.. sometimes my mouth gets away with me.. but i just need to remember that I can do this.. thanks again! Hugs