Good for you, just enjoying his company and no R talks. I remember being so obsessed with the R and wanting to pick his brain about everything and share every observation I made about our R. Wrong. He didn't want to hear it and I just drove myself nuts. Or I would email and sit and wait for one to come back.
I took a break from emailing him and calling him at work. Went cold turkey and only emailed if it had something to do with kid's schedules and such. I don't know if the backing off had an impact on him or me, but it helped keep me a bit more sane not waiting for an email or reading into his tone when I spoke on the phone.
A great website is flylady.net for getting the house organized. When we were separated I was really good at following the plan and it was nice to have a decluttered house, helped my mentality and I'm a naturally sloppy person.
Hang in there, these changes take time, but it is all achievable and sounds like you are making great progress.
