well Last night i did very well... no R talk... and i played video games with him all evening... he really liked that, and ended up sleeping with me in the same bed.. he also left this morning and gave me kisses on the cheek before he left... He hasnt done that in a long time. He told me he had fun with me. I'm proud of myself for not talking about the R... it was really hard, but it was fun to just hang out with him. I have therapy today.. and then two more days before we leave for vacation... this next week is going to be so hard for me.. not only trying to stay relaxed.. less controlling, not nagging, but just trying to keep from talking about our R... i can do this though.. i have already seen results and i like them. Thanks for listening to me go on and on.. hugs