Thanks HoneyPot for your encouragement... I really appreciate it.. I think that is a great idea about the Teddy because my husband is also that way.. And I can see how it would create pressure.. I do think that what I want is to learn how to live with the differences in our SD's without feeling rejected and undesired by hubby.. That is the hardest part for me.. Sometimes when I know he wants me I am okay if we don't do anything.. I do believe the biggest part is rejection.. Well feeling rejected and like I don't appeal to him sexually.. That's a hard one.. on top of that he isn't an affectionate person.. I have noticed him trying to makes some changes too.. Not really in the bedroom but in our marriage. Basically loving me for who I am.. and not critisizing.. that has been a big problem..between constantly feeling rejected and then put down in all I do and say was getting to the point where I just didn't know how much I could take.. Although it's not going to be perfect everyday I am thankful he is putting his best foot forward.. So what has been the biggest help for you HoneyPot in not taking you H's LD so personal? I think that is the hardest thing to deal with..
