Wow, busy busy in your world, huh? I think it's fantastic that you and D19 had that talk...you know if YOU hadn't changed the Dad you were...this would NOT have happened...how much more bitterness, ignorance, blame would there have been? Years and years of it.
The past is the past, it's how we deal with it that counts...and like MOOKA, I'm saddened by CAW's response to D19's reaching out.
Now the little kisses....you may be right in your thought that she's trying to ease the tension (tension from you going somewhat grey despite the schedule of contact)...
But...why bother now? And her asking you "is this what you wanted?"...curious...although I DO recall (correct me if I'm wrong here) you saying that in the past CAW had kind of used physical attention as currency? or felt pressure for such?
I think you're doing right just playing it cool...I like the button downed shirt...shake that image up some...she's not expecting you to just stagnate, is she??
Your R with your daughters does sound better than ever, and no, the irony is not lost on me.