Sunday I took off early from work and picked up D19. Went to the auto show and we both had a really good time. Took her to a Burger King because she was complaining how her BF doesn't like going there. I joke that I didn't mind that she is a cheap date. Anyway, the day before CAW had called to confirm if my offer for her to do her laundry at the house was still good. I told it was. After dropping off D19, I went home to find the house looked a little emptier. She decided to help herself to a few more things. Now most of it was hers, such as her cows and cow motif kitchen utilities, the clock, calendar and breadmaker from the kitchen. Pictures of her side of the family from the living room, some candle holders from our bedroom and cleaned out a drawer in the bathroom of "beauty" supplies. Now, it wasn't what she took that upset me, but that she took it without telling me first. I felt violated. I mean, I don't want to enter the house each day with the thought, "What did she take this time?" & inspect the house each time to see if anything else is missing. Did not set up for a good night, but I got thru it.
Monday, CAW called me in the morning to say she made an doc appointment for D11, but it was at 2:30 pm that afternoon and she D24 had her jeep while she was at work and if I could take D11 to doc's. I said no problem. I dressed up in a nice button down shirt and by new khaki slacks rather than my usual T-shirt and jeans. When I showed up to pick up D11 at school, CAW did a quick double take, but didn't say anything altho something flash across her face. I cheerily greeted all her coworkers in the kitchen, then while waiting for D11 to showe up I told CAW that when she had a moment when we can talk in privacy I had something I need to speak to her about since I didn't think it appropriate to bring up about Sunday in front of her staff. She said OK give her a call.
Turned out waiting a while for the doc and getting D11's prescriptions filled took most to the afternoon, but D11 & I made the most of it. Then we went home and I cooked dinner and I cleaned up afterwards as D11 worked on her homework. Then we choose to accept (actually I ordered) the impossible mission of cutting the cats claws that haven't been done in two weeks. Actually, it went rather smoothly. Then it was time to take her to the apartment. She still doesn't want to stay overnight, but I'm letting it go for now.
When I dropped her off and going over what doc said and about the meds, CAW and I stepped outside and I proceded to tell her how I felt about coming home Sunday night to items missing and that while I had no issue about her wanting things from the house, I hope she would discuss it with me first for two reasons. So that I know what I can expect when I come home and I have a chance to discuss if there's a item I made need or borrow. For example, I feel the breadmaker is more of a community item where while she may take it with her, I would be able to borrow it if I had a need. She simply said, "no problem. Is that it?" I said yes, since I was sure how she would take it, I just felt it would be better to talk privately that maybe airing our "dirty" laundry for others to hear.
Then I said I guess I should go. There was an awkward pause where we stared at each other for a few seconds, then she came over and gave me a couple of kisses and said, "Is that what you wanted?" The question caught me offguard, so I just said again I should go and walk to my truck. I'm not quite sure how to take that question?
Tuesday, D19 helped me paint the shed. She originally came over to help install the doors, but sincec CAW seems to have her heart set on helping on Friday with that, I asked D19 if she can help me with the painting instead. As we chit-chatted, the convo kept steering to the sitch. About D24 moving in and I brought up what I came home to Sunday night. We both expressed our worries over the cons. I appologized for bringing up the subject. I didn't want her to feel like she's in the middle. She said she wants to be able to talk about it with me and understands my need to vent. By that time I had to take her home so she can get ready for school. D11 comes home just as I'm finishing painting the shed floor (1st coat) and we have a pleasant afternoon. Try to squeeze in a chess game, but I had to take to the apartment early for D24 to watch her because of open house at her school. I met CAW there as she had to serve coffee and cookies for the event.
We gathered in the gym and she asked if I wanted some cookies and went and got them for me. Then we had to gathered in the cafeteria to hear the teacher's presentation. CAW sat next to me and we passed back & forth some wisecracks about some of the comments the teachers made. Then she leaned up against me say how tired she was.
Then it was off to the classroom. On the hallway wall outside was an essay each student wrote about themselves. Two things stood out about D11's to both of us. Under what she feared, D11 included her oldest sister (D24) and under what she missed most she wrote her grandfather. Upon reading this CAW started crying. I found some tissues in the classroom and gave her a hand rub on her back to try to show support. She composed herself and then we spoke to D11's teacher for a bit, then excused ourselves. We went back to kitchen so CAW can pick her things and while there she told me not to go anywhere while she used the restroom. We walked together to the parking lot, going over our schedule once again for the remainder of the week. When we got to her jeep, she again leaned up against me and gave a bunch of little kisses. I mentioned that I seem to be getting a lot of those lately and she simply replied, "I know." and we said our goodnights.
I wish I knew the motive behind those tender little kisses, especially since she's still moving more stuff into the apartment ... but still she hasn't kissed me that way for the past two years. Why now? Don't worry, I'm keeping my expectations at zero. I know I still have a long haul in front of me. With D24 moving in with her now, there's no way CAW is thinking of coming back home any time soon. She would not leave D24 in a lurch like that.
... and so much for going dark ... the only day this week I won't see her was yesterday ... but at least on that day there was no contact at all. This evening I need to drop off my truck at the mechanic's. D19 will be in school, so I asked CAW if she would give me a ride home. Then tomorrow, she will be coming over to hang the doors on the shed which she seems to be looking forward to. And I'm probably going to need a ride to the bank and to pick up the truck when its repaired (hopefully they won't keep it all weekend).
I'm hoping this weekend, I might be able to persuade D11 to stay overnight. It would give us some much more time together. Other than that still taking what comes one day at a time.
